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daiva's avatar

🗨 Niceness is a perverted inversion of real kindness, in that it is fundamentally self-centred. The objective of niceness is to be liked. True kindness or loving compassion means wanting what is genuinely best for others. True kindness must often necessitate saying “no.” It therefore requires a willingness to accept conflict.

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Castelletto's avatar

Very true. Niceness is also self-serving often in that it provides a screen for cowardice.

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Jen's avatar

Totally agree with this - most of those I know who play in this space of "nice" and "tolerant" are some of the most unkind and selfish people I know. They wouldn't lift a finger for another person. You won't see them in the soup kitchens any time soon.

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