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Gemma Star's avatar

The original commenter should have done precisely what he did: embraced and loved his adopted children.

This is hardly an either/or matter.

Love never is. 💕

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Based Florida Man's avatar

He could have done that with White children, are in the fastest disappearing group at only 8% of world population.

And would have had a more cohesive family unit.

Many examples of multi-culty family disasters. A notable one: https://nypost.com/2023/11/03/news/mike-johnsons-adopted-son-michael-t-james-says-hes-thankful-to-the-house-speakers-family-after-troubled-past-is-revealed/

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Jade Dixon's avatar

There is no guarantee that the child in need of a home when you are ready to adopt will have the same skin color as you. If you're not going to accept a child whose needs you can meet based on their skin color, then you have no business being a parent, adoptive or otherwise.

Also, there are issues with adoptive parents being unable to adopt due to marital status or religious beliefs. Back in 2008 some red states restricted adoption to married couples only. More recently, some blue states have refused to allow a church going single mother to adopt a child. Sometimes the only option is to adopt from a country with less restrictive rules, and the child will most likely not be the same race as the parents.

Celebrities can afford to bypass all of these issues and virtue signal with their choice of kids to adopt.

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liz's avatar

agreed. I usually really like BFM comments but these border on racism so I,m kinda disappointed.

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CMCM's avatar

I don't agree at all that BFM's comments are borderline racism. Ideally, mixed marriages and adoption would work perfectly. But you have to consider the times and society in which you live, which is distinctly NOT ideal. Society doesn't usually (yet) have perfect opinions on such things. While a black child being raised in a white family can be loved just as much as a biological child, difficulties will present themselves throughout that child's life. It's not insurmountable, but it's there in myriad ways. Our society still makes it difficult, sadly.

Here's an interesting observation: Many white families adopt black orphans. It seem like rare to almost never that black families adopt white orphans. In fact, fewer black families adopt orphans than do white families. I don't know why that is the case.

As for racism, I spent over 12 years living, working and traveling in various countries. I saw racism in every culture. In Saudi Arabia, they were very skin conscious and what I would deem racist. A great many Saudis are from tribes that are actually as white as I am in terms of skin color. Other tribes are darker, and some tribes of African origin (such as Sudanese) are very black. I learned very quickly that there was a hierarchy of color there and groups were definitely judged by their skin color. Any person (male or female) who married someone of even slightly darker skin color was considered to be marrying down. Capital punishment is common in Saudi Arabia. The executioners who perform beheadings in the public square were black Sudanese in origin. I suspect the white Saudi elites found it distasteful to do such work.

Then there is Thailand. My granddaughter was there for awhile as a teacher. Her Thai co-teachers and friends used to tell her "Wear a hat in the sun or you will start to look like a black person." Lots of obvious racism in that country.

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liz's avatar

yes racism takes many forms, some subtle, some more blatant. in Central America where I live historically darker skinned people were looked down upon while the lighter skinned were more privileged. it gets more complicated in the same family.

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Based Florida Man's avatar

For almost of time, until a few decades ago, interracial marriage (or adoption) was highly scorned. It's hardly a racist subject.

We've been so programmed to accept multi-culty.

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liz's avatar

People need to be left alone to love who they love.

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Jeff C's avatar

Liz - Is BFM standing outside the home of a couple contemplating a different race adoption with a bullhorn condemning them? Is he trying to drive them out of the neighborhood? Off course not. He is simply observing that there is something unusual going on here that would have been unimaginable not that long ago. And the jury is still out about whether or not it's a good thing. There are real world examples that did not work out well, we are allowed to discuss this.

Your definition of "leaving people alone" means that people never face any criticism for decisions they make regardless of whether or not it's good for them, good for the kids they bring into the world, or good for society in general. We are allowed to discuss this stuff, particularly when by just about every objective measure the typical family is in much worse shape than it was seventy years ago.

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Based Florida Man's avatar

You're claiming that adoptive parents should not at all consider the race of the child? So absurd.

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Jade Dixon's avatar

People like you are the reason why I'm grateful to not have had children and why I'll probably never adopt either.

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Based Florida Man's avatar

We're just discussing a controversial topic on the internet.

For almost all of time, until just a few decades ago, society didn't support homosexuals or interracial relationships.

So I'm hardly making an earth shattering point to take a critical view of mixed adoption (or marriage).

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Jade Dixon's avatar

Yeah. You wouldn't want me to exisr or to have children anyway, my boyfriend and I are both of mixed races.

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liz's avatar

I feel you. some of the people on this page are aware on some topics but extremely backwards on others. sending abrazos!

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Based Florida Man's avatar

I'm talking about history.

For nearly all time up to the mid 1900's, mixed race relationships were very rare and not at all mainstream. In less than a generation it's another tradition that has been diluted.

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Jade Dixon's avatar

Well since I won't be having kids we will undilute this tradition in a generation.

Thanks for reminding me why I find the right to be just as disgusting as the left.

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