Yes I understand. I am holding out until middle school to get them phones (I have five children) and until high school to allow them social media. I do not think it matters much. I try to emphasize family time and rules like “no phones at dinner table” and “no sitting in front of a screen in a dark room” (I sense this is so unhealthy) and “five minute breaks at the top of every hour” … it is like spooning away the tide. I am trying ti focus them on life quality and prioritization … they will soon be out if my care and on their own … they need to be able ti put the damn thing down and get things done all by themselves (my eldest is 16). Overall, society is going to hell in a hand basket and the only hope for any of us is Jesus. I pray a lot for my little ones … the future seems bleak.
Anyway, our parents fretted about television time which feels so quaint to me now but they weren’t wrong
Yes, no iPads on your lap or in your face... I limit time... my daughter is only 10..... and every mom I know that has submitted to the phone regrets it. Our advantage is we live on an island, so she can’t go far, no one is stealing her... and we are outside most of the time. Is there anyone you follow that writes about all the teen stuff?? So daunting compared to my 80s-90s life
I just remembered something I noticed when smart phones started to be more ubiquitous, so that was probably 2008 to 2010 or so. I know I still had a flip phone at that time, whenever it was. So I was up in Squaw Valley in a little cafe and I noticed a group of young people (20's) come in. This is typically a spot where people would be chatting with each other and enjoying the beautiful spot and having a good time, but what I saw was all these people NOT talking to each other and just staring down at their phones. I remember wondering why they would rather communicate with a person who was NOT there with them rather than with those who WERE there. It just seemed so odd, so disconnected, and so abnormal. I now realize what I observed didn't bode well for the future.
Hubby and fam and I just went out to breakfast yesterday at a hole in the wall place full of 50+ people… not a one of them was on their phone. The place was loud- full of conversation and laughter. Heard quite a few mentions of the Biden crime family. Haha. I mentioned to hubby if this were 20- something’s they’d all be on their phones.
I have three teenager girls ... do tell, I thought I knew ALL the latest words ... FRL or facts (no printer). Also pray for me
Prayers sent.
Those teenage girls settle down after college, and become lovely daughters again. :)
I’m so scared of giving my daughter a phone.
Yes I understand. I am holding out until middle school to get them phones (I have five children) and until high school to allow them social media. I do not think it matters much. I try to emphasize family time and rules like “no phones at dinner table” and “no sitting in front of a screen in a dark room” (I sense this is so unhealthy) and “five minute breaks at the top of every hour” … it is like spooning away the tide. I am trying ti focus them on life quality and prioritization … they will soon be out if my care and on their own … they need to be able ti put the damn thing down and get things done all by themselves (my eldest is 16). Overall, society is going to hell in a hand basket and the only hope for any of us is Jesus. I pray a lot for my little ones … the future seems bleak.
Anyway, our parents fretted about television time which feels so quaint to me now but they weren’t wrong
You seem like an amazing, in tune and involved mom ( I'm guessing sorry)
Keep doing what you are doing and try to have your home be the place where other kids want to gather because they feel love and light.
Yes, no iPads on your lap or in your face... I limit time... my daughter is only 10..... and every mom I know that has submitted to the phone regrets it. Our advantage is we live on an island, so she can’t go far, no one is stealing her... and we are outside most of the time. Is there anyone you follow that writes about all the teen stuff?? So daunting compared to my 80s-90s life
Get her a flip phone! Keep them off social media!!!!!! I mean it! They track everything we do! I’m buying one!
I just remembered something I noticed when smart phones started to be more ubiquitous, so that was probably 2008 to 2010 or so. I know I still had a flip phone at that time, whenever it was. So I was up in Squaw Valley in a little cafe and I noticed a group of young people (20's) come in. This is typically a spot where people would be chatting with each other and enjoying the beautiful spot and having a good time, but what I saw was all these people NOT talking to each other and just staring down at their phones. I remember wondering why they would rather communicate with a person who was NOT there with them rather than with those who WERE there. It just seemed so odd, so disconnected, and so abnormal. I now realize what I observed didn't bode well for the future.
Hubby and fam and I just went out to breakfast yesterday at a hole in the wall place full of 50+ people… not a one of them was on their phone. The place was loud- full of conversation and laughter. Heard quite a few mentions of the Biden crime family. Haha. I mentioned to hubby if this were 20- something’s they’d all be on their phones.
See my reply above.