Allie Beth Stuckey has a new book out talking about Toxic Empathy (especially as it relates to women) and how our nature to be kind has been weaponized against us by the Left.
Allie Beth Stuckey has a new book out talking about Toxic Empathy (especially as it relates to women) and how our nature to be kind has been weaponized against us by the Left.
I've rambled on about this before but at it's heart is confusion between being "kind" and being "nice". They aren't the same.
Kind means looking out for the well-being of others. It can take many forms but it often means telling people what they don't want to hear (i.e. the truth) when they are hell-bent on doing something destructive.
Nice means being polite, pleasant, and not upsetting people. Though usually desirable, it's not the same as kind. We should strive to be nice but not at the expense of truth. Sometimes being nice is the opposite of kind as it's a coward's way of dodging an unpleasant truth that needs to be said.
This seems to be more of an issue with women than men, likely due to their maternal instinct, but not always. It's why we all need to be reading the Bible as this stuff is spelled out pretty clearly.
“We should strive to be nice but not at the expense of truth.”
Love that. So true!! I do strive to be nice, but my kindness overpowers that when I know the truth must be said.
And sometimes the truth that needs to be said is harsh enough to be considered an open insult.
Some people only respond to being bested at their own nasty craft. It’s never my first choice of retort, but usually after several kind efforts to counter their nastiness, I speak obvious plain truth and it can be ugly. My fuse is short these days.
Yesterday I even called a doctor a POS because he was criticizing anti-vaxxers yesterday for claiming many people felt forced to get the jab and he said “nobody forced you, you always had a choice.” And then he went about praising all the doctors and scientists who did the best they could with the Covid years, ignoring that most of the BEST doctors and scientists were actually destroyed and lost their reputations and licenses. His whole post was enraging to me and everyone else reading it. After calmly explaining several other viewpoints he was disregarding, it was obvious he was evil personified and I spoke to him as such. Truly, if you read his comments and you were a “kind” person, you would have lost it too. 🤣
I do properly feel guilty after having posted something scathing even though it was long overdue and directed at a truly awful person. I’m glad I can feel that guilt. I know many who post nasty comments don’t feel guilty at all, but delight in it.
Allie Beth Stuckey has a new book out talking about Toxic Empathy (especially as it relates to women) and how our nature to be kind has been weaponized against us by the Left.
I've rambled on about this before but at it's heart is confusion between being "kind" and being "nice". They aren't the same.
Kind means looking out for the well-being of others. It can take many forms but it often means telling people what they don't want to hear (i.e. the truth) when they are hell-bent on doing something destructive.
Nice means being polite, pleasant, and not upsetting people. Though usually desirable, it's not the same as kind. We should strive to be nice but not at the expense of truth. Sometimes being nice is the opposite of kind as it's a coward's way of dodging an unpleasant truth that needs to be said.
This seems to be more of an issue with women than men, likely due to their maternal instinct, but not always. It's why we all need to be reading the Bible as this stuff is spelled out pretty clearly.
“We should strive to be nice but not at the expense of truth.”
Love that. So true!! I do strive to be nice, but my kindness overpowers that when I know the truth must be said.
And sometimes the truth that needs to be said is harsh enough to be considered an open insult.
Some people only respond to being bested at their own nasty craft. It’s never my first choice of retort, but usually after several kind efforts to counter their nastiness, I speak obvious plain truth and it can be ugly. My fuse is short these days.
Yesterday I even called a doctor a POS because he was criticizing anti-vaxxers yesterday for claiming many people felt forced to get the jab and he said “nobody forced you, you always had a choice.” And then he went about praising all the doctors and scientists who did the best they could with the Covid years, ignoring that most of the BEST doctors and scientists were actually destroyed and lost their reputations and licenses. His whole post was enraging to me and everyone else reading it. After calmly explaining several other viewpoints he was disregarding, it was obvious he was evil personified and I spoke to him as such. Truly, if you read his comments and you were a “kind” person, you would have lost it too. 🤣
I do properly feel guilty after having posted something scathing even though it was long overdue and directed at a truly awful person. I’m glad I can feel that guilt. I know many who post nasty comments don’t feel guilty at all, but delight in it.