I had my first one in 1991 with a midwife and got the best care and took classes with her learning so much. In the end, my baby was breech, butt down, and we couldn't turn her, so I ended up with a C-section in a hospital. I had 2 more children but the laws do not permit a home birth after a C section and honestly I was afraid.
I had my first one in 1991 with a midwife and got the best care and took classes with her learning so much. In the end, my baby was breech, butt down, and we couldn't turn her, so I ended up with a C-section in a hospital. I had 2 more children but the laws do not permit a home birth after a C section and honestly I was afraid.
My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage because of a horrible decision to get an IUD, when I was in college. I was half way through the pregnancy, when that device killed the baby.
I spent a day or so at the mercy of a hospital with that experience. One of my memories is of crying and a nurse basically telling me to shut up. This was in Austin, Texas in 1973, where they were pushing abortion bigly. I was unmarried at the time I got pregnant and the OBGYN I went to actually tried to talk me into aborting instead of getting married.
Having had those experiences, when I realized I was pregnant again a year later, I told my husband there was no way I was having the baby at a hospital.
I give God all the glory for making it just easy really to find a midwife, with about 40 years of experience and a doctor, who would do the necessary check ups to make it all legal.
We were living in the woods in the Florida Panhandle and when I look back, there was much less regulatory stress and pressure.
God similarly provided for wonderful birthing experiences for my next 3, which required getting another midwife (the first retired) and another doctor.
The last birth was 1982 and I know my experiences couldn’t be duplicated in today’s world.
But, then again…God can do anything.
I’m also a country girl (I will survive) with Native American heritage and was told by one of those doctors that my pelvic area was so wide ‘that a Mac truck could be driven through it.’ Ha ha. Yet, he and the other doctor I used later still showed courage in signing off for me to deliver naturally with a midwife.
I know some women have other size characteristics and issues and reason to need medical attention. And that’s fine. But the reactions I got from other women indicated that they were just too afraid to have their baby without all that medical intervention available.
I went to planned parenthood of all places to get a prego test. While I was just trying to absorb the fact I was pregnant they kept asking me when I had my last period and I repeatedly said IDK and to let me think. Of course they let me know my choice about abortion but I just jumped up and left. My partner and I chose to marry as we were in love and have been married ever since. He was a good man then and even better now.
I was scared about the scar tissue rupturing if I had a home birth after a c section. I would go to a birthing center these days. They are around.
I had my first one in 1991 with a midwife and got the best care and took classes with her learning so much. In the end, my baby was breech, butt down, and we couldn't turn her, so I ended up with a C-section in a hospital. I had 2 more children but the laws do not permit a home birth after a C section and honestly I was afraid.
My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage because of a horrible decision to get an IUD, when I was in college. I was half way through the pregnancy, when that device killed the baby.
I spent a day or so at the mercy of a hospital with that experience. One of my memories is of crying and a nurse basically telling me to shut up. This was in Austin, Texas in 1973, where they were pushing abortion bigly. I was unmarried at the time I got pregnant and the OBGYN I went to actually tried to talk me into aborting instead of getting married.
Having had those experiences, when I realized I was pregnant again a year later, I told my husband there was no way I was having the baby at a hospital.
I give God all the glory for making it just easy really to find a midwife, with about 40 years of experience and a doctor, who would do the necessary check ups to make it all legal.
We were living in the woods in the Florida Panhandle and when I look back, there was much less regulatory stress and pressure.
God similarly provided for wonderful birthing experiences for my next 3, which required getting another midwife (the first retired) and another doctor.
The last birth was 1982 and I know my experiences couldn’t be duplicated in today’s world.
But, then again…God can do anything.
I’m also a country girl (I will survive) with Native American heritage and was told by one of those doctors that my pelvic area was so wide ‘that a Mac truck could be driven through it.’ Ha ha. Yet, he and the other doctor I used later still showed courage in signing off for me to deliver naturally with a midwife.
I know some women have other size characteristics and issues and reason to need medical attention. And that’s fine. But the reactions I got from other women indicated that they were just too afraid to have their baby without all that medical intervention available.
Like you, I instead feared their interventions.
I went to planned parenthood of all places to get a prego test. While I was just trying to absorb the fact I was pregnant they kept asking me when I had my last period and I repeatedly said IDK and to let me think. Of course they let me know my choice about abortion but I just jumped up and left. My partner and I chose to marry as we were in love and have been married ever since. He was a good man then and even better now.
I was scared about the scar tissue rupturing if I had a home birth after a c section. I would go to a birthing center these days. They are around.