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dancingtime's avatar

Actually, imho, calling people you do not know but who are customers "sweetie" or "honey" is condescending and a way to put people in their place....or bringing them down to the status level they see themselves being.

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Double Mc's avatar

There's a difference between a man calling us "sweetie" or "honey" and a woman doing it. In the South, it's just a kindness. When men do it, it is most likely condescension.

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deathcap's avatar

I was about to say, being called "sweetie" by a waitress at a Waffle House in Georgia is pretty par for the course.

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Debra's avatar

Yeh, I don't think it's a good idea to piss off anyone who is bringing you food. Even if they called me granny!

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Patti's avatar

Well this is true!

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MayBella82's avatar

It is when they say Bless Your Heart… they are putting you down. Calling sweetie or honey is just an endearment or they forgot your name.

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RJ Rambler's avatar

I'm so old that my Bless your heart is old too. They've also changed that definition. 😞 School culture makes the last generation out of step me and more. Another reason to homeschool.

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alongername's avatar

Nowadays......... best to call the waitress DUDE

unless its a gayguy. Then i use Sweetie

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KATHERINE JERNIGAN's avatar

Nah. Chill

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Patti's avatar

I agree with this. I don’t like it done to me and I don’t do it to others. I find it more respectful to ask for their name. Use their name. I remember feeling this way as a small child. I noticed it in healthcare nurses calling patients honey, sweetie, sweetheart! Yuck! No. Use their name.

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AnnR's avatar

I disagree.

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