Right??? My mom used to say “profanity makes ignorance audible” and while I can understand (though generally don’t indulge in it myself) the well-placed curse word for emphasis and emotion from time to time, I honestly get really annoyed at listening to and reading strings of several sentences that contain one or more of them. It actuall…
Right??? My mom used to say “profanity makes ignorance audible” and while I can understand (though generally don’t indulge in it myself) the well-placed curse word for emphasis and emotion from time to time, I honestly get really annoyed at listening to and reading strings of several sentences that contain one or more of them. It actually becomes difficult to follow what they are trying to express and so I tune out 🤷♀️
Agreed. Intellectually, curse words are just not necessary. The "f" word is particularly offensive to many of us. My advice to those who insist on using it: pick up a thesaurus please and be more creative.
I was at a garage sale recently talking old books with the owner. She went and got one of her prized possessions: a dictionary from the early 1800s. It was MASSIVE, with teeny tiny type. We proceeded to discuss the degradation of our language to just a few thousand words, the most common one being the f-bomb.
My grandfather had one of those old massive Webster dictionaries! The type was so small, but we loved going through it as kids. He displayed it on a pedestal in the foyer when you entered his home!
I agree with AngelaK, I use them to transmit a tone, because it’s not always clear from just the words whether something is sarcasm or not, for example. But I only do that with conversational style writing. It makes it more animated and expressive when texting or posting comments, in my opinion.
Exactly how I feel! People who crow about “swearing like a sailor” seem to me to be just perpetual adolescents trying to prove what “rebels” they are 🙄🙄🙄
The reasons sailors' swearing was so impressive is that, traditionally, it was done in ten different languages, for fifteen minutes straight without repeating a single curse. Something of a lost art these days...
I think the offensiveness is precisely the point. George Carlin had great routines about this. He understood that humans interact using signals, and words are the main signals we use. The science that studies this is known as semiotics.
The childhood rhyme about "sticks and stones" represents this concept. Words only hurt when we allow them to - usually because we're trained to interpret them that way. In daily life, we use symbols so constantly that we think that's all that exists. We confuse the map with the actual territory.
But if you can go to a quiet place and embrace the silence, you can hear all the words running around in your head. There are disciplines that teach a person how to observe and to quiet that internal stream, like meditation. I've been able to experience this a few times in my life, that utter peace that comes from silencing all internal thoughts and symbols - it's incredible when you achieve it, and very difficult for the average person to hold in that state for long.
My experience coming out of that state brought an understanding that our modern human world is an extremely-complex, overlapping collection of games - and symbols are the medium in which those games are played.
I know why the yogi laughs. To one who can slip into that state at will, the world of men looks like a huge maze full of rats chasing one another without purpose. The laugh is one of sadness mixed with irony and empathy.
And despite all that cosmic stuff, I agree that casual profanity does make a person sound ignorant and imprecise. As a longtime casual swearer, I'm attempting to mend my ways in the latter part of my life.
Perhaps some exposition would be helpful. What about floristry (floristhood, floristopoly?) causes so much consternation? Can't you just stop and smell the flowers?
Other than the thorns I imagine most other aspects are common to most customer-facing industries. I would think it generally smells better than most work environments. I can think of some phrases that might help, "what the fuchsia's going on here?!" For example.
You make some good points. Oh I agree, the point is the offensiveness but tbh to me, especially when used regularly, it just comes across as puerile attempts at provocation and lack of self control. Sorry to those offended by my reaction 🤷♀️ I’ve just always felt that way and I haven’t seen anything in my lifetime so far to prove the contrary.
And yes, words are offensive because as a society we’ve decided they are offensive and carry certain meanings and connotations. But when people despite being completely aware of those meanings and connotations, deliberately use such language, they are imo either trying to show they’re “rebels”, attempting to be gratuitously aggressive and provocative, or just don’t have the self control to stop themselves. None of which are qualities I personally would be proud of, but of course not everyone has to agree with me 🙂
I agree with you. I fell into a habit of cursing early in life - my parents weren't good examples of linguistic precision, although my maternal grandparents were. Like any habit, the more often it's repeated, the easier it is to become lazy about it. The "cultural appropriation" of "street talk" that arose with gangsta rap in the 90's degraded our language and our culture. Suddenly trashy was "cool", and we haven't shaken this yet. Instead, modern culture has internalized it, which I think is tragic and degrading.
It was much more fun when George Carlin was investigating our language habits like a scientist. At least he made us laugh at ourselves and be a little less uptight.
Now the big booty and the tramp stamp is worn with some misplaced pride (like other "pride" examples I can think of) and hood slang is considered "hip". I look forward to the day when this crap is considered passe.
Oh I agree, the sociolinguistic aspects of cursing are indeed interesting!
And I also agree that our society has bought into the “trashy is cool” notion for a while now 😕 Even shows like Jerry Springer make me cringe. It’s really showcasing the lowest level of behavior, and even though people make fun of it, the fact that it gets this much attention has somehow also served to validate it. I think our society has become coarser and cruder over the years and it’s not been beneficial. While I would also agree that some of the niceties of the past may have had some “fakeness” attached to them, and not all parts of society were treated nicely in the past either, I don’t know why there has been this rush and this trend to being as rude and crude as possible. We could’ve been trying to strive for authenticity and yet keep the decorum. They’re not mutually exclusive. It seems like there should be a happy medium somewhere.
When I worked for the DOD I got tired of soldiers' casual cursing in my office, so I put a sign on my desk (along with a curse jar): "Profanity is the effort of a weak mind to express itself forcefully."
I encountered a "weak mind" in a parking lot, who was seriously gumming up the flow of traffic. After he finishing cursing me out for the problem HE caused, I replied: "If you were to remove all the expletives from your tirade, it would render you completely inarticulate." He stared at me and said, "Whaaat?" I said, "Exactly!" and drove off.
Mrs. "the Knife"
P.S. I did have an engineer throw $5 in the curse jar and ask, "How much will that buy me?"
When my kids were little and finding the power of curse words I used to tell them my secret curse words: purple gallinuel or troglodyte, both are birds, the first is a coot and the second is a wren. I still amuse my grown son when we talk about that. Although I think I just revealed how weird I am.
I had never heard that phrase before, “profanity makes ignorance audible”, but I have often had the exact same reaction. And thought along the same lines with my adult children who use it interchangeably in every other sentence.
My kids, especially my younger son, are not big fans of curse words, fortunately. My older one uses them sparingly and usually more for punning/joking purposes than anything else. My younger one will not use any at all, although that may change once he gets into his later teens. I’m glad we see eye to eye on this overall but there is definitely a very strong cultural push towards casual use of profanity.
My kids don’t use any profanity around me. I think even though they’re adults, that they’re still afraid of getting their mouth washed out with soap 🤣😂🤣 BTW I never did that to them.
Same! Mine are very respectful and my one son that has said a few words, actually more alludes to them than comes out and says them. Plus they’re not even English words 😆
My son uses it around friends and around me because he knows it jerks my chain. He’s a successful business exec. When I have listened to him take business calls, it never enters into conversations. That would not be professional.
I like to use the edited for T.V. profanity strings. "I'm sick to death of all these monkey-fighting snakes on this monday-to-friday plane" is a favorite.
Another good one is from Die Hard 2, "Yippee-kiyay mister falcon!"
Love that saying from your mother. I'll have to remember that one. Curse words are a default used by people who are caught up in emotions rather than stopping to think intelligently for the word that will properly describe a situation. Curse words are feelings rather than descriptions. That's probably why the left more frequently defaults to curse words.
Mine drug us 4 kids to church every Sunday which was a 36 mile round trip. 2 are believers and 2 are not. She was a saint in my eyes. My dad was an unbeliever.
I was a research librarian for 25 years, hold an advanced degree, regularly hit 120 books read per year (i.e. I'm not incapable of expressing myself otherwise) and enjoy swearing occasionally (in the right company). I think it's because it's so unexpected that it can be used with humor.
As St. Teresa said, "Lord, save us from gloomy saints."
Well I don’t generally like foul language but used judiciously, it can be indeed be effective or even amusing on occasion. I guess my objection is more to the constant peppering and casual usage of those words in all kinds of situations. And your point about being in the right company is well taken also. But so many people don’t even take that into account.
Oh I just knew someone was going to say that. I keep hearing people talk about these “studies”, I guess the “experts” have spoken again 🙄 Who did them, how were they carried out and what was the agenda? And if they supposedly have a higher IQ, then why are they hiding it by using the same curse words repetitively instead of a richer and more varied way of expressing themselves?
For some cursing is just part of their culture. You won't find it as much in the south as the north (from my experience) and you should see less cursing in those who are following Christ as our language should bring glory to God.
My dear dad (career military man) came very close to taking the Lord’s name in vain one time, within my hearing. Back when land lines were the only phones in existence, I had to wake him to tell him he had a call. “God…bless my happy home” was his response. I giggle about it now.
Well I never knew professional level cursing until I moved to LA. Those people can’t seem to speak a sentence without a casual string of ugly words. Glad I moved from there.
Oh of course I can, but YOU are the one who brought up “studies”, so I assumed (apparently wrongly) that you actually had some in mind. Why should I have to expend my time and energy to prove a point *you* were attempting to make?
Also the logic of “it shows we can read studies, understand them and apply them” (how does it actually show that?) and the implication that people who don’t use foul language can’t read, understand and use studies is quite the reach 😆
Running, you are talking to what sounds like an indoctrinated 12 year old - who when faced with a challenge to produce the data - instead throws an ad hominem to deflect.
Upon reflection, I actually don’t even really care about these “studies.” Not only were they likely undertaken to justify someone’s penchant for swearing, but I don’t need a study or “experts” to form an opinion on this kind of thing. If a study tells me that maggots and worms are delicious, that doesn’t make me any more likely than I was before to want to eat them 😆
I concur.... I just think clowns like the brain dead "bot" you were talking to need to be called out when they state "studies" prove but then dont produce the study. Most studies are like polls, they are produced to convince us of a narrative they want to project.
I’ve just been beat senseless here, because I curse. And I’ve always considered myself rather intelligent. So to all of you that will virtue signal just like a good progressive over curse words, well @#*&$=(*$! Because to me,that’s what all y’all sound like. Tut tut.
I’m not virtue signaling. Just expressing an opinion 🤷♀️ Which apparently has ruffled a few feathers here. If *you* enjoy using foul language, what do you care what *I* or anyone else might think about it? I just think it sounds crass and crude and I don’t enjoy hearing it. I’m not saying people who curse can't be intelligent but to me it doesn’t *sound* intelligent. That’s all. And as to the complaint about being judgmental, every single human being is judgmental. It’s our nature. You just don’t agree with my judgment and that’s okay. You don’t have to agree.
Alan, it’s not virtue signaling. It’s just that who wants to wallow in poo? It’s not pleasant or uplifting. Gutter talk reflects poorly on those who use it.
For me, my reaction to swearing (especially when it’s every other sentence) is more along the lines of me saying (for example) I don’t think rainbow colored hair is attractive. I am not going to go up to someone and tell them I hate their hair and think it looks ugly. It’s none of my business. They get to choose how to wear their hair. But I will certainly think what I want about it, and I’m allowed an opinion on it. I don’t like cursing because it sounds like verbal aggression to me. Other people don’t care and it’s like any other word for them. But that’s not how I feel and I have a right to my opinion too.
Right??? My mom used to say “profanity makes ignorance audible” and while I can understand (though generally don’t indulge in it myself) the well-placed curse word for emphasis and emotion from time to time, I honestly get really annoyed at listening to and reading strings of several sentences that contain one or more of them. It actually becomes difficult to follow what they are trying to express and so I tune out 🤷♀️
Agreed. Intellectually, curse words are just not necessary. The "f" word is particularly offensive to many of us. My advice to those who insist on using it: pick up a thesaurus please and be more creative.
I was at a garage sale recently talking old books with the owner. She went and got one of her prized possessions: a dictionary from the early 1800s. It was MASSIVE, with teeny tiny type. We proceeded to discuss the degradation of our language to just a few thousand words, the most common one being the f-bomb.
My grandfather had one of those old massive Webster dictionaries! The type was so small, but we loved going through it as kids. He displayed it on a pedestal in the foyer when you entered his home!
It can also be helpful in Boggle disputes! I have one myself.
I also can't stand how people use emojis in place of an actual sentence. Use your WORDS people! Let's not devolve into communicating with pictures.
To be fair, emojis can convey a feeling of the kind you have in face to face conversation. Sometimes just an expression is all that's needed.
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I use a laptop so no emoji's for me. Texting my grandkids I use them.
I agree with AngelaK, I use them to transmit a tone, because it’s not always clear from just the words whether something is sarcasm or not, for example. But I only do that with conversational style writing. It makes it more animated and expressive when texting or posting comments, in my opinion.
NB I loved that line, "pick up a thesaurus" lol, they don't know what that is.
Ya wanna bet? I own several. They're some of my favorite things.
Exactly how I feel! People who crow about “swearing like a sailor” seem to me to be just perpetual adolescents trying to prove what “rebels” they are 🙄🙄🙄
The reasons sailors' swearing was so impressive is that, traditionally, it was done in ten different languages, for fifteen minutes straight without repeating a single curse. Something of a lost art these days...
(/j, somewhat)
People who curse are already more creative than you who don't. As well as having higher IQs than you.
Prove it! 😆
I would have cussed but I Kept drawing blankity blanks________😉🤣
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I bet Kamala swears a lot. She is so very very in-tell-a-gent. I wanna be smart like her. Gonna throw out a few f-bombs right now! 🤣🤣🤣
I think the offensiveness is precisely the point. George Carlin had great routines about this. He understood that humans interact using signals, and words are the main signals we use. The science that studies this is known as semiotics.
The childhood rhyme about "sticks and stones" represents this concept. Words only hurt when we allow them to - usually because we're trained to interpret them that way. In daily life, we use symbols so constantly that we think that's all that exists. We confuse the map with the actual territory.
But if you can go to a quiet place and embrace the silence, you can hear all the words running around in your head. There are disciplines that teach a person how to observe and to quiet that internal stream, like meditation. I've been able to experience this a few times in my life, that utter peace that comes from silencing all internal thoughts and symbols - it's incredible when you achieve it, and very difficult for the average person to hold in that state for long.
My experience coming out of that state brought an understanding that our modern human world is an extremely-complex, overlapping collection of games - and symbols are the medium in which those games are played.
I know why the yogi laughs. To one who can slip into that state at will, the world of men looks like a huge maze full of rats chasing one another without purpose. The laugh is one of sadness mixed with irony and empathy.
And despite all that cosmic stuff, I agree that casual profanity does make a person sound ignorant and imprecise. As a longtime casual swearer, I'm attempting to mend my ways in the latter part of my life.
I worked as a florist many years. Profanity is required.
Perhaps some exposition would be helpful. What about floristry (floristhood, floristopoly?) causes so much consternation? Can't you just stop and smell the flowers?
I'd imagine you could start with all those #$%^ rose thorns... And the demanding customers wanting the impossible at the very last minute?
Other than the thorns I imagine most other aspects are common to most customer-facing industries. I would think it generally smells better than most work environments. I can think of some phrases that might help, "what the fuchsia's going on here?!" For example.
Haha... I've had many jobs where it was, if not required, at least appropriate to the task at hand...
You make some good points. Oh I agree, the point is the offensiveness but tbh to me, especially when used regularly, it just comes across as puerile attempts at provocation and lack of self control. Sorry to those offended by my reaction 🤷♀️ I’ve just always felt that way and I haven’t seen anything in my lifetime so far to prove the contrary.
And yes, words are offensive because as a society we’ve decided they are offensive and carry certain meanings and connotations. But when people despite being completely aware of those meanings and connotations, deliberately use such language, they are imo either trying to show they’re “rebels”, attempting to be gratuitously aggressive and provocative, or just don’t have the self control to stop themselves. None of which are qualities I personally would be proud of, but of course not everyone has to agree with me 🙂
I agree with you. I fell into a habit of cursing early in life - my parents weren't good examples of linguistic precision, although my maternal grandparents were. Like any habit, the more often it's repeated, the easier it is to become lazy about it. The "cultural appropriation" of "street talk" that arose with gangsta rap in the 90's degraded our language and our culture. Suddenly trashy was "cool", and we haven't shaken this yet. Instead, modern culture has internalized it, which I think is tragic and degrading.
It was much more fun when George Carlin was investigating our language habits like a scientist. At least he made us laugh at ourselves and be a little less uptight.
Now the big booty and the tramp stamp is worn with some misplaced pride (like other "pride" examples I can think of) and hood slang is considered "hip". I look forward to the day when this crap is considered passe.
Oh I agree, the sociolinguistic aspects of cursing are indeed interesting!
And I also agree that our society has bought into the “trashy is cool” notion for a while now 😕 Even shows like Jerry Springer make me cringe. It’s really showcasing the lowest level of behavior, and even though people make fun of it, the fact that it gets this much attention has somehow also served to validate it. I think our society has become coarser and cruder over the years and it’s not been beneficial. While I would also agree that some of the niceties of the past may have had some “fakeness” attached to them, and not all parts of society were treated nicely in the past either, I don’t know why there has been this rush and this trend to being as rude and crude as possible. We could’ve been trying to strive for authenticity and yet keep the decorum. They’re not mutually exclusive. It seems like there should be a happy medium somewhere.
When I worked for the DOD I got tired of soldiers' casual cursing in my office, so I put a sign on my desk (along with a curse jar): "Profanity is the effort of a weak mind to express itself forcefully."
I encountered a "weak mind" in a parking lot, who was seriously gumming up the flow of traffic. After he finishing cursing me out for the problem HE caused, I replied: "If you were to remove all the expletives from your tirade, it would render you completely inarticulate." He stared at me and said, "Whaaat?" I said, "Exactly!" and drove off.
Mrs. "the Knife"
P.S. I did have an engineer throw $5 in the curse jar and ask, "How much will that buy me?"
Love his sense of humor! 😆
Just like an engineer to pre-pay: always seeking maximum efficiency!
I think he was going for a bulk discount!
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When my kids were little and finding the power of curse words I used to tell them my secret curse words: purple gallinuel or troglodyte, both are birds, the first is a coot and the second is a wren. I still amuse my grown son when we talk about that. Although I think I just revealed how weird I am.
You revealed how creative you are.
I love unusual words!
Mine died laughing when one time I yelled, "Poodle Farts". That was 30-40 years ago and they still laugh about it.
I used "bat's breath" in grade school and junior high. Don't know where I picked it up.
Mrs. "the Knife"
My husband uses “piggy-brat”! 🤷🏻♀️
I had never heard that phrase before, “profanity makes ignorance audible”, but I have often had the exact same reaction. And thought along the same lines with my adult children who use it interchangeably in every other sentence.
My kids, especially my younger son, are not big fans of curse words, fortunately. My older one uses them sparingly and usually more for punning/joking purposes than anything else. My younger one will not use any at all, although that may change once he gets into his later teens. I’m glad we see eye to eye on this overall but there is definitely a very strong cultural push towards casual use of profanity.
My kids don’t use any profanity around me. I think even though they’re adults, that they’re still afraid of getting their mouth washed out with soap 🤣😂🤣 BTW I never did that to them.
Same! Mine are very respectful and my one son that has said a few words, actually more alludes to them than comes out and says them. Plus they’re not even English words 😆
We used tabasco sauce when the soap failed.
My kids would love Tabasco sauce 😆🤣 I’d have to use fish oil or something instead 😆
My son uses it around friends and around me because he knows it jerks my chain. He’s a successful business exec. When I have listened to him take business calls, it never enters into conversations. That would not be professional.
Yes I feel like a lot of times it can be provocation.
I like to use the edited for T.V. profanity strings. "I'm sick to death of all these monkey-fighting snakes on this monday-to-friday plane" is a favorite.
Another good one is from Die Hard 2, "Yippee-kiyay mister falcon!"
I love those, hilarious!! 🤣😆
SciFi has also increased my vocabulary with words like, "Smeg!" (Red Dwarf), and "felgercarb(sp?)" (Original Battlestar Galactica).
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Love that saying from your mother. I'll have to remember that one. Curse words are a default used by people who are caught up in emotions rather than stopping to think intelligently for the word that will properly describe a situation. Curse words are feelings rather than descriptions. That's probably why the left more frequently defaults to curse words.
My mother was an amazing woman and I miss her so much 💔
I miss my mom as well.
Yes, it’s something I’ve noticed, and probably will never get over the loss of my mother. It’s been 10 years and I still cry.
😢💔
Me too. Some of us were blessed with such good mothers.
Mine drug us 4 kids to church every Sunday which was a 36 mile round trip. 2 are believers and 2 are not. She was a saint in my eyes. My dad was an unbeliever.
And very well said about the words being feelings rather than descriptions!
Can't please all of the people all of the time.
I was a research librarian for 25 years, hold an advanced degree, regularly hit 120 books read per year (i.e. I'm not incapable of expressing myself otherwise) and enjoy swearing occasionally (in the right company). I think it's because it's so unexpected that it can be used with humor.
As St. Teresa said, "Lord, save us from gloomy saints."
Well I don’t generally like foul language but used judiciously, it can be indeed be effective or even amusing on occasion. I guess my objection is more to the constant peppering and casual usage of those words in all kinds of situations. And your point about being in the right company is well taken also. But so many people don’t even take that into account.
My dad used to say “Profanity is a sign of ignorance”. There is a lot of wisdom from that generation worth listening to!
My dad used to say of those speaking vulgarities, "They've got something in their mouth that I wouldn't hold in the palm of my hand." :o)
My mother as well, although less neatly put.
I am so hoping my elderly mother doesn't catch any of the current shows on cable TV. She would fall off her walker.
Too bad for you that it's been shown, time and again, that the people who curse have higher IQs than those of you who do not.
Oh I just knew someone was going to say that. I keep hearing people talk about these “studies”, I guess the “experts” have spoken again 🙄 Who did them, how were they carried out and what was the agenda? And if they supposedly have a higher IQ, then why are they hiding it by using the same curse words repetitively instead of a richer and more varied way of expressing themselves?
For some cursing is just part of their culture. You won't find it as much in the south as the north (from my experience) and you should see less cursing in those who are following Christ as our language should bring glory to God.
My dear dad (career military man) came very close to taking the Lord’s name in vain one time, within my hearing. Back when land lines were the only phones in existence, I had to wake him to tell him he had a call. “God…bless my happy home” was his response. I giggle about it now.
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Well I never knew professional level cursing until I moved to LA. Those people can’t seem to speak a sentence without a casual string of ugly words. Glad I moved from there.
Teenagers are particularly apt at this as well. They think using curse words make them sound like adults.
Well, it shows that we can read studies, understand them, and are able to apply them to the real world, instead of just being judgmental prigs.
Which studies pray tell? I can read studies too 🙄 You sound pretty judgmental yourself 😑
See you're not even smart enough to know how to look things up online. 😂🤣
Oh of course I can, but YOU are the one who brought up “studies”, so I assumed (apparently wrongly) that you actually had some in mind. Why should I have to expend my time and energy to prove a point *you* were attempting to make?
Also the logic of “it shows we can read studies, understand them and apply them” (how does it actually show that?) and the implication that people who don’t use foul language can’t read, understand and use studies is quite the reach 😆
Running, you are talking to what sounds like an indoctrinated 12 year old - who when faced with a challenge to produce the data - instead throws an ad hominem to deflect.
Upon reflection, I actually don’t even really care about these “studies.” Not only were they likely undertaken to justify someone’s penchant for swearing, but I don’t need a study or “experts” to form an opinion on this kind of thing. If a study tells me that maggots and worms are delicious, that doesn’t make me any more likely than I was before to want to eat them 😆
I concur.... I just think clowns like the brain dead "bot" you were talking to need to be called out when they state "studies" prove but then dont produce the study. Most studies are like polls, they are produced to convince us of a narrative they want to project.
That was my thought. This sounds like a 12 year old kid arguing with his older brother, not an adult.
I’ve just been beat senseless here, because I curse. And I’ve always considered myself rather intelligent. So to all of you that will virtue signal just like a good progressive over curse words, well @#*&$=(*$! Because to me,that’s what all y’all sound like. Tut tut.
I’m not virtue signaling. Just expressing an opinion 🤷♀️ Which apparently has ruffled a few feathers here. If *you* enjoy using foul language, what do you care what *I* or anyone else might think about it? I just think it sounds crass and crude and I don’t enjoy hearing it. I’m not saying people who curse can't be intelligent but to me it doesn’t *sound* intelligent. That’s all. And as to the complaint about being judgmental, every single human being is judgmental. It’s our nature. You just don’t agree with my judgment and that’s okay. You don’t have to agree.
And self righteousness is so attractive, all.
Alan, it’s not virtue signaling. It’s just that who wants to wallow in poo? It’s not pleasant or uplifting. Gutter talk reflects poorly on those who use it.
For me, my reaction to swearing (especially when it’s every other sentence) is more along the lines of me saying (for example) I don’t think rainbow colored hair is attractive. I am not going to go up to someone and tell them I hate their hair and think it looks ugly. It’s none of my business. They get to choose how to wear their hair. But I will certainly think what I want about it, and I’m allowed an opinion on it. I don’t like cursing because it sounds like verbal aggression to me. Other people don’t care and it’s like any other word for them. But that’s not how I feel and I have a right to my opinion too.