You are moving into dangerous territory here BFM. What you say is objectively true; families of common backgrounds do tend to be more cohesive and there is no shortage of white kids needing adoption. That being said, perfect is the enemy of good.
In my mind, it all boils down to motivation. If someone is adopting a different race child to…
You are moving into dangerous territory here BFM. What you say is objectively true; families of common backgrounds do tend to be more cohesive and there is no shortage of white kids needing adoption. That being said, perfect is the enemy of good.
In my mind, it all boils down to motivation. If someone is adopting a different race child to draw attention to themselves and virtue signal (as no doubt most of these Hollywood types do) then it's despicable. If someone feels called by God to share their blessing with a child that almost certainly will be worse off if they don't, that's a different story.
But there's often another layer of weirdness on top of all this. Speaker Mike Johnson took legal guardianship of a 14 year old black boy when he was 25. Johnson has given vague answers on the exact date but it was apparently two years before he got married (see edit below). Matt Gaetz has done something similar with a young Cuban immigrant. As a pretty normal guy that grew up lower middle class, this is not typical behavior, it is strange. I don't mean to imply anything untoward, but it does make me wonder if there's a Savior complex at play. Another strange aspect is that those that rise to power always seem to have some aberrational behavior in their past (good or bad) that most of us would never choose to do.
Bottom line though is that society demands we always praise these types of actions, and we are never allowed to openly question them. Doing so is off limits. When people demand that we never question something it almost always makes me question it more. Nothing man does is so above reproach that it cannot be questioned.
Edit: I need to note that Speaker Johnson has stated on one occasion that he took the boy in when he and his wife were newlyweds. Other statements he's made regarding the timeline place it a couple years before he was married. It's not clear exactly when it happened which itself is odd for someone so powerful.
I am for FREE SPEECH. I fear the loss of that freedom. I fear desperately that we are becoming a society in which political correctness is more important than free speech. Free speech is exactly what you find abhorrent to hear. Something you do not agree with. Then once it is said, let the audience decide. Don't shout them down. Don't cancel them and block them. Consider the merits of the argument and respond with Bless you or Hell no..... but freedom of speech is sacred.
The idea that multi-culty families is better is a false narrative.
Here's a great example, where some well meaning Whites adopted a young Black boy, only to have him grow up to call them racists. Here's a mild version of him calling out his parents:
"It's isolating," ...had to navigate as a biracial adoptee being raised by White parents.
"I've had a lot of responses from other transracial adoptees on that front," Kaepernick said."
I don't argue with that at all. We have been fed a narrative regarding all stuff racial, most of which is a lie. It's been done to destroy the dominant Christian European culture that made the US prosperous until recent decades. Ask yourself who that benefits, and it's not the typical American.
My former pastor had a son who also went into the ministry. Our pastor told us his son and his wife had decided they wouldn't have a biological child when there are so many kids needing adoption. They flew to Korea (they are both white) and adopted a baby. This was presented to us as a noble act of sacrifice, and of course all the congregation applauded and talked about how wonderful it was. It never sat right with me.
The Bible says, "go forth and multiply" along with "care for orphans". It doesn't say forsake having your own kids and instead raise someone else's kids. Yet this was somehow presented as a good thing despite not having any clear biblical basis. He's no longer our pastor as he retired many years ago.
I call these types of people "turn the other cheek" Christians. They have taken a clear teaching from Christ regarding de-escalation (turn the other cheek), and turned it into an ethos of self-inflicted debasement and guilt that we deserve poor treatment. It's like battered wife syndrome. The world plays on this by constantly portraying strong, confident Christianity as a bad thing. We are told that we are collectively guilty for the sins of others, and that Christ expects us to pay a price for that. It's a lie from Hell.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having as many biological kids as one wants regardless of how many orphans there are in the world. Yet this young couple had been brainwashed to think otherwise, egged on by a worldly society that views multiculturalism itself as some sort of Nirvana. It's so great even our families must be multicultural, according to them. There's zero biblical basis for it.
If one feels led by the Holy Spirit to adopt an infant then that's great, I would never criticize someone for doing it with loving intentions (though I may question their psychological mindset if they go out of the way to adopt a different race child). But it doesn't score any brownie points over those that have their own biological children.
Multi culti families are good when they are good and not good when they are not. Remember that lesbian couple that drive their six adopted children off a cliff in California? That was NOT GOOD. I think the praise of multi culti families often comes from a loathing of (white) traditional families and i think that is what Based was after. My family is multi culti … I have five kids with my Chinese born and raised husband … any fawning over us based on race is a mistake through and through. It is a strength and weakness and one of the least interesting aspects of who we are as a family
My friend who was Director of a prominent adoption society, and who had both biological and (same-race) adopted children of her own said, "There's something about adopted kids." It would be hard to be fully normal when your primary relationships, with your biological mother and father (and unborn babies know their mothers' voices, at least, before birth), have been torn asunder.
Thanks for the edit--as I had read your original yesterday, the edit this a.m. I was a newlywed only once, but sure as shooting wouldn't have invited (or accepted) a third person to that party.
You are moving into dangerous territory here BFM. What you say is objectively true; families of common backgrounds do tend to be more cohesive and there is no shortage of white kids needing adoption. That being said, perfect is the enemy of good.
In my mind, it all boils down to motivation. If someone is adopting a different race child to draw attention to themselves and virtue signal (as no doubt most of these Hollywood types do) then it's despicable. If someone feels called by God to share their blessing with a child that almost certainly will be worse off if they don't, that's a different story.
But there's often another layer of weirdness on top of all this. Speaker Mike Johnson took legal guardianship of a 14 year old black boy when he was 25. Johnson has given vague answers on the exact date but it was apparently two years before he got married (see edit below). Matt Gaetz has done something similar with a young Cuban immigrant. As a pretty normal guy that grew up lower middle class, this is not typical behavior, it is strange. I don't mean to imply anything untoward, but it does make me wonder if there's a Savior complex at play. Another strange aspect is that those that rise to power always seem to have some aberrational behavior in their past (good or bad) that most of us would never choose to do.
Bottom line though is that society demands we always praise these types of actions, and we are never allowed to openly question them. Doing so is off limits. When people demand that we never question something it almost always makes me question it more. Nothing man does is so above reproach that it cannot be questioned.
Edit: I need to note that Speaker Johnson has stated on one occasion that he took the boy in when he and his wife were newlyweds. Other statements he's made regarding the timeline place it a couple years before he was married. It's not clear exactly when it happened which itself is odd for someone so powerful.
What a thoughtful comment. Thank you. And--but for you, I would never have known that about our Congressional representatives.
I am for FREE SPEECH. I fear the loss of that freedom. I fear desperately that we are becoming a society in which political correctness is more important than free speech. Free speech is exactly what you find abhorrent to hear. Something you do not agree with. Then once it is said, let the audience decide. Don't shout them down. Don't cancel them and block them. Consider the merits of the argument and respond with Bless you or Hell no..... but freedom of speech is sacred.
Thank you. !!
The idea that multi-culty families is better is a false narrative.
Here's a great example, where some well meaning Whites adopted a young Black boy, only to have him grow up to call them racists. Here's a mild version of him calling out his parents:
"It's isolating," ...had to navigate as a biracial adoptee being raised by White parents.
"I've had a lot of responses from other transracial adoptees on that front," Kaepernick said."
https://people.com/sports/colin-kaepernick-found-it-hard-to-call-out-adoptive-parents-over-race/
I don't argue with that at all. We have been fed a narrative regarding all stuff racial, most of which is a lie. It's been done to destroy the dominant Christian European culture that made the US prosperous until recent decades. Ask yourself who that benefits, and it's not the typical American.
My former pastor had a son who also went into the ministry. Our pastor told us his son and his wife had decided they wouldn't have a biological child when there are so many kids needing adoption. They flew to Korea (they are both white) and adopted a baby. This was presented to us as a noble act of sacrifice, and of course all the congregation applauded and talked about how wonderful it was. It never sat right with me.
The Bible says, "go forth and multiply" along with "care for orphans". It doesn't say forsake having your own kids and instead raise someone else's kids. Yet this was somehow presented as a good thing despite not having any clear biblical basis. He's no longer our pastor as he retired many years ago.
I call these types of people "turn the other cheek" Christians. They have taken a clear teaching from Christ regarding de-escalation (turn the other cheek), and turned it into an ethos of self-inflicted debasement and guilt that we deserve poor treatment. It's like battered wife syndrome. The world plays on this by constantly portraying strong, confident Christianity as a bad thing. We are told that we are collectively guilty for the sins of others, and that Christ expects us to pay a price for that. It's a lie from Hell.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having as many biological kids as one wants regardless of how many orphans there are in the world. Yet this young couple had been brainwashed to think otherwise, egged on by a worldly society that views multiculturalism itself as some sort of Nirvana. It's so great even our families must be multicultural, according to them. There's zero biblical basis for it.
If one feels led by the Holy Spirit to adopt an infant then that's great, I would never criticize someone for doing it with loving intentions (though I may question their psychological mindset if they go out of the way to adopt a different race child). But it doesn't score any brownie points over those that have their own biological children.
I take Kaepernick with a huge grain of salt. He's a loudmouthed race-baiting Marxist agitator.
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Multi culti families are good when they are good and not good when they are not. Remember that lesbian couple that drive their six adopted children off a cliff in California? That was NOT GOOD. I think the praise of multi culti families often comes from a loathing of (white) traditional families and i think that is what Based was after. My family is multi culti … I have five kids with my Chinese born and raised husband … any fawning over us based on race is a mistake through and through. It is a strength and weakness and one of the least interesting aspects of who we are as a family
My friend who was Director of a prominent adoption society, and who had both biological and (same-race) adopted children of her own said, "There's something about adopted kids." It would be hard to be fully normal when your primary relationships, with your biological mother and father (and unborn babies know their mothers' voices, at least, before birth), have been torn asunder.
Excellent comment
Thanks for the edit--as I had read your original yesterday, the edit this a.m. I was a newlywed only once, but sure as shooting wouldn't have invited (or accepted) a third person to that party.