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Anne Clifton's avatar

My half-sister is an athletic trainer at a large high school. When I first started posting about the rise in sudden deaths among athletes, she chastised me and said it has always happened. She refused to acknowledge that the number of cases had increased. I don't know if her views are the same now, a couple of years later. We were never extremely close, but my stance on the vaccines has added awkwardness to the relationship.

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Based Florida Man's avatar

Even with evidence right in front of them. Seems they'd be slightly curious?

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Anne Clifton's avatar

It probably didn't help that I advised her half-sister (it's a complicated family) not to be vaccinated. This woman is severely disabled and w as worried about getting the vaccine. She asked my opinion. I'm not sure what she decided; her mother and my half-sister surely pressured her to be jabbed. (Side note: Why can't parents stay together and spare their children all the complicated and hurtful situations that come with divorce?)

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Liz Shelby's avatar

I lived in one of those households you think are better than divorce, believe you me they are not. They are complete and utter torture. Children in households with parents who should have gotten a divorce are much more miserable than those of divorced parents. You don't know who you can talk to, without it being seen as taking sides, what you can say or when, so you end up living a solitary life even when there are 4 other siblings in the home. Life is too short to be miserable, it is completely unfair to stretch that misery into your childs life too.

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Jeff C's avatar

Parents who fight and try and turn children against the other parent really are awful, there isn't much more reprehensible behavior. It's not that hard to get along if there's a will to do so.

It really is a sign of our spoiled and narcissistic culture that grown adults cannot behave themselves and act responsibly in front of children. No one has to act out on their emotions, it is a choice to do so. People also choose to be miserable and take their misery out on others. They could choose to keep their mouth shut and slap a smile on their face, instead yelling and screaming at each other is a conscious, selfish act.

I'm sorry you had to go through this and wish your parents had behaved differently. But understand that they chose to behave the way they did despite the horrible effects on the children. No one forced them to do this, yet they didn't care. I say this so hopefully you don't make the same mistake with your kids (if you have them), and also so you can keep it in mind when your elderly parents now try and manipulate you through guilt.

You didn't deserve this, and recognize your parents chose to make the house miserable. Forgive them (for your own benefit) but don't forget. You have no obligation to participate in their dysfunction. People rarely change, but if they do (by the grace of God) it will be obvious.

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Liz Shelby's avatar

Thank you but there is no need for concern.

I am almost 70, my parents have both long since passed and were brought up to believe that "until death us do part" meant just that, even if you discovered that you actually had nothing in common save for a baby, neither of you intended to make. But, it was considered "the right thing to do". I have forgiven them long ago. My reasoning being, they were both so wrapped up in their own misery they just didn't see what it was doing to us kids. They didn't do the usual yelling, screaming, throwing things and definitely no violence, they would just go months without speaking one word. I have often wondered how much happier they, and in turn we, would have been had they been able to divorce.

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Anne Clifton's avatar

I totally agree with you! There are some cases where divorce is the only option. I am certainly not advocating for every marriage to continue, no matter the abuse, but I think the majority of divorces are due to infidelity, such as was true of my son's wife and my father. My son was willing to stay with his wife in order to keep his family together, but she left and has made it difficult for him to see his children. There's no excuse for either of the people I mentioned ending their marriages. As a Christian, I don't believe being happy is the ultimate goal.

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Fre'd Bennett, MAHA's avatar

Please pray for a family known to me.

Found out yesterday that the wife (who now claims she is a witch) is demanding that the husband no longer take their two children to the Traditional Mass.

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Kim D's avatar

It's a very confusing time for humanity with many different roads to take. I'm praying that the high road is the choice of this family and they will be devinely guided for their best life.

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Willing Spirit's avatar

😢🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

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Anne Clifton's avatar

Praying now.

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Artmama's avatar

I’m so sorry. The effects from divorce on children never seem to go away even into adulthood. It’s not spoken enough about.

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Fred's avatar

If you ever want to end that relationship permanently😁😢, ask why in heck they so often cannot be resuscitated with ACLS care immediately available. The rarity of success is a distinctly new phenomenon.

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Susan Stephens's avatar

Sad but great point

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Liz Shelby's avatar

Ask your sis to name, lets say 5, athletes in any sport that died due to cardiac arrest either while in practise or in play, prior to 2020. Willing to bet she can't.......

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SB's avatar

All I know is many many health professionals now say they have ever seen anything like this and they have been in healthcare decades. Insurance companies are also seeing rises like never before

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Anne Clifton's avatar

My husband has been trying to get an appointment with his cardiologist for months. He's decided the doctors must be so busy with all the new patients with heart problems that their schedule is full. I cannot prove this in any way, but it seems ambulances are passing our house (in a rural area) more often lately, sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. Can't help but wonder . . .

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Rebecca Campbell's avatar

Send her the professors paper.

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