You misunderstood me. I have no problem with the human sex drive. We wouldn’t exist without it. I personally do not think it is necessary to wait until marriage, but I would counsel A young person to be careful to understand the risks and responsibilities, and try to have an experience with someone that they truly love. With very good bi…
You misunderstood me. I have no problem with the human sex drive. We wouldn’t exist without it. I personally do not think it is necessary to wait until marriage, but I would counsel A young person to be careful to understand the risks and responsibilities, and try to have an experience with someone that they truly love. With very good birth control. I do respect people whose religious values make them want to wait until marriage. Again, not my personal issue. Just pointing out that expecting everybody to wait is unrealistic.
So what did you mean, then, when you wrote “the human sex drive has been a problem for thousands of years”?
Counseling a young person to “try to have an experience with someone that they truly love” is the problem, because it is full of assumptions and ignores reality. You don’t have to have “religious values” to understand that that “experience” can and often does lead to a baby, and then what? What if that person you “truly love” doesn’t truly love you? Abortion? A marriage that begins with duress? Single motherhood? Adoption, which is lovely for the couple wanting a child, but full of heartache for the foolish girl following your bad advice?
And that’s just the pregnancy possibility, what about the STD that will likely follow you the rest of your life? And no one talks about the very real emptiness young people experience with casual hook-ups.
You don’t have to have “religious values” to look at this with eyes wide open and see that there just is no upside to sex outside of marriage, only risks. Responsibility is not religious. And the adults in the room need to wake up and start talking about this honestly, the whole thing, not just birth control and fantasy love.
Btw, both of my children were conceived while I was using birth control. Good thing I was happily married.
You misunderstood me. I have no problem with the human sex drive. We wouldn’t exist without it. I personally do not think it is necessary to wait until marriage, but I would counsel A young person to be careful to understand the risks and responsibilities, and try to have an experience with someone that they truly love. With very good birth control. I do respect people whose religious values make them want to wait until marriage. Again, not my personal issue. Just pointing out that expecting everybody to wait is unrealistic.
So what did you mean, then, when you wrote “the human sex drive has been a problem for thousands of years”?
Counseling a young person to “try to have an experience with someone that they truly love” is the problem, because it is full of assumptions and ignores reality. You don’t have to have “religious values” to understand that that “experience” can and often does lead to a baby, and then what? What if that person you “truly love” doesn’t truly love you? Abortion? A marriage that begins with duress? Single motherhood? Adoption, which is lovely for the couple wanting a child, but full of heartache for the foolish girl following your bad advice?
And that’s just the pregnancy possibility, what about the STD that will likely follow you the rest of your life? And no one talks about the very real emptiness young people experience with casual hook-ups.
You don’t have to have “religious values” to look at this with eyes wide open and see that there just is no upside to sex outside of marriage, only risks. Responsibility is not religious. And the adults in the room need to wake up and start talking about this honestly, the whole thing, not just birth control and fantasy love.
Btw, both of my children were conceived while I was using birth control. Good thing I was happily married.