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Gigi Gummerson's avatar

When my mother and husband died 2 weeks apart, I had all sorts of people telling me I should take something to ease my suffering...nope! I didn’t do it, isn’t death part of life? Get thru it one day at a time! Which I did, it’s now been 8 years. Im doing just fine!

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FourWinds's avatar

Those people wanted you on drugs for their benefit, not yours. The west simply does not deal with grief and would rather everyone stayed happy all the time, even if it means being doped up six ways till Sunday. It's almost like it's a sin to be sad or something, but sadness is a part of life. I got the same line when my mom died. It's infuriating. I am sorry about your husband and mother, though. That had to be so very hard.

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RunningLogic's avatar

Well said.

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Miss Teacup's avatar

It might be darker. Despair is an aspect of Sloth, one of the Seven Deadlies. Trap people via drugs into a major sin spiral and think of the implications! Goes for "wellness", too, which feeds vanity and pride. They all layer up so prettily. Skip the drugs, maybe learn to pray instead. Sorry for your losses.

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Annie's avatar

Exactly. Of course you are supposed to be upset or sad at that time. It's like they don't want you to express yourself or have human emotions.

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Credenda's avatar

It also circumvents the natural grieving process. There’s considerable evidence that taking antidepressants prolongs the course of grieving. Much better to rely on other kinds of support (God, family, friends, even pets) than to take substances that the manufacturers are clueless about. They really have no idea how they work nor do they care.

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Ripple's avatar

Especially pets. My kitties are an important part of my emotional well-being.

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