I will only accept these people after the surgeries. Before that they are born with the equipment they have. I only know of one person who transferred from male to female, and even though he looked very feminine, I can only think of him as HE. There is no changing gender, only sex.
I will only accept these people after the surgeries. Before that they are born with the equipment they have. I only know of one person who transferred from male to female, and even though he looked very feminine, I can only think of him as HE. There is no changing gender, only sex.
Not sure. I don't get involved in the debates (hence the reason I've found it so difficult to pen a cogent article on the topic).
I will say this ... I've NEVER been a typical female on this planet. So ... I sympathize with those who do not fit in. I believe that the social pressures to be and act a certain way based on gender at birth are still WAAAAAAYYYYYYYY more powerful than ANYBODY, on either side of the aisle (so to speak), would ever dare to admit.
That said, I can also COMPLETELY understand how impossible it would be to think of your acquaintance as a "she" after having known him as a "he" beforehand. As I said, I have only known my friend as a "she," so it seems ridiculous to me to think of her as her former male self. (Also ... I don't ask re: surgery. To me, that's their business. I truly don't even want to know.)
I read an article recently that posited that either Jane Austin, Emily Dickinson or Charlotte Bronte (I can't remember and don't want to google; please forgive me) was really a lesbian, or some such rot, because of the way she wrote about the way her own inner mind worked.
My children would tell you I'm very aggressive and rather masculine. But I am very much a woman. Sometimes I wonder if all this confusion is because we don't give people the space to be people. They must fit into this box that says x, y, z and if they don't it's because they really belong in another box. Maybe each of us is as individual as our fingerprints. Maybe each of us have traits that are more feminine/masculine and less feminine/masculine. But those are our inner beings, not our physical bodies that we present to the world. It doesn't mean our bodies are wrong; it simply means there's no one else like us anywhere else on the planet. That's kind of amazing if you think about it because there are billions of people out there, yet none of them are exactly alike. There was a time when we understood this about each other and embraced it, instead of using it to divide ourselves (or allowing ourselves to be divided.)
As a woman who is highly rational and logical, not maternal, very competitive, but also quite feminine and very much attracted to men only, I don't tick "usual" boxes, either, but I honestly could not care less whether or not "someone gives me the space to be me". Other people do not dictate my space, I do. No one needs to give it to me, the space to be me is inherently mine to occupy or not. If I choose to let someone else define it, then I would be letting them define me and would only exist in relation to them and their expectations.
Dr. Kitt -- are you a vet? OT -- but my dad created the Perineal Urethrostomy surgery to correct urinary blockage in male cats. Always a fun fact to share with other Vets -- I've heard it's still taught in vet school.
Yes, it is still taught -- or was as of the 2010's when I was in school -- and in fact, I strongly debated having the surgery performed on my most beloved tomcat last month.
That's quite an impressive pedigree though -- are you a 2nd generation DVM?
I will only accept these people after the surgeries. Before that they are born with the equipment they have. I only know of one person who transferred from male to female, and even though he looked very feminine, I can only think of him as HE. There is no changing gender, only sex.
Not sure. I don't get involved in the debates (hence the reason I've found it so difficult to pen a cogent article on the topic).
I will say this ... I've NEVER been a typical female on this planet. So ... I sympathize with those who do not fit in. I believe that the social pressures to be and act a certain way based on gender at birth are still WAAAAAAYYYYYYYY more powerful than ANYBODY, on either side of the aisle (so to speak), would ever dare to admit.
That said, I can also COMPLETELY understand how impossible it would be to think of your acquaintance as a "she" after having known him as a "he" beforehand. As I said, I have only known my friend as a "she," so it seems ridiculous to me to think of her as her former male self. (Also ... I don't ask re: surgery. To me, that's their business. I truly don't even want to know.)
I read an article recently that posited that either Jane Austin, Emily Dickinson or Charlotte Bronte (I can't remember and don't want to google; please forgive me) was really a lesbian, or some such rot, because of the way she wrote about the way her own inner mind worked.
My children would tell you I'm very aggressive and rather masculine. But I am very much a woman. Sometimes I wonder if all this confusion is because we don't give people the space to be people. They must fit into this box that says x, y, z and if they don't it's because they really belong in another box. Maybe each of us is as individual as our fingerprints. Maybe each of us have traits that are more feminine/masculine and less feminine/masculine. But those are our inner beings, not our physical bodies that we present to the world. It doesn't mean our bodies are wrong; it simply means there's no one else like us anywhere else on the planet. That's kind of amazing if you think about it because there are billions of people out there, yet none of them are exactly alike. There was a time when we understood this about each other and embraced it, instead of using it to divide ourselves (or allowing ourselves to be divided.)
As a woman who is highly rational and logical, not maternal, very competitive, but also quite feminine and very much attracted to men only, I don't tick "usual" boxes, either, but I honestly could not care less whether or not "someone gives me the space to be me". Other people do not dictate my space, I do. No one needs to give it to me, the space to be me is inherently mine to occupy or not. If I choose to let someone else define it, then I would be letting them define me and would only exist in relation to them and their expectations.
1000% GG -- you summed it up beautifully!
Dr. Kitt -- are you a vet? OT -- but my dad created the Perineal Urethrostomy surgery to correct urinary blockage in male cats. Always a fun fact to share with other Vets -- I've heard it's still taught in vet school.
Yes I am, and WOW!
Yes, it is still taught -- or was as of the 2010's when I was in school -- and in fact, I strongly debated having the surgery performed on my most beloved tomcat last month.
That's quite an impressive pedigree though -- are you a 2nd generation DVM?
A fun connection! Actually I am not a vet. But the one way I and my siblings followed our dad is that we are all self employed :)
NICE! That's the way to be for sure :)