@Sarah- I was talking to my MIL once about my father's and stepmother's things and how she'd never get in the way of anything we want whenver ever Dad died. She leaned over the table and said "Honey, death changes people." That resonated with me. Now, Dad died in 2001 and stepmother is now 97 and the best stepmother anyone in life could …
@Sarah- I was talking to my MIL once about my father's and stepmother's things and how she'd never get in the way of anything we want whenver ever Dad died. She leaned over the table and said "Honey, death changes people." That resonated with me. Now, Dad died in 2001 and stepmother is now 97 and the best stepmother anyone in life could ever have. She has never denied us anything. I haven't wanted anything (scratch that. One thing and it mysteriously disappeared. Just a small statue my grandmother used to have in her house) but I'll tell you this: 2 of my 4 siblings have become monsters and stepmother isn't even dead yet. She has a book of requests from us kids and other family members. My one sister asked for a couple of small momentos, one brother hasn't asked for anything (he lives his life with his head buried in the sand), my husband recently asked her for Dad's turntable and some LP records of crooners from the 60s and 70s, I asked for nothing but she is giving me an opal bracelet because we share a birthday. The other two siblings? The one who lives in state has been clearing out the house for years, much of it my grandmother's things. I showed up once for a visit (NY to FL so it was obviously planned) and there were BOXES of Gramma's things on the kitchen table they were loading into their van. I mentioned it'd be nice if the rest of us could get a chance to see what's there. They hastily left for home. The other brother? You should see how thick my stepmother's notes are of what all he wants. He just filled up a POD from her house (she's had to move in with a family member 3 hours away from her home) and had it delivered to his place in the NE. Death (and money) most certainly DOES change people. Or does it simply bring out what was already there?
@Sarah- I was talking to my MIL once about my father's and stepmother's things and how she'd never get in the way of anything we want whenver ever Dad died. She leaned over the table and said "Honey, death changes people." That resonated with me. Now, Dad died in 2001 and stepmother is now 97 and the best stepmother anyone in life could ever have. She has never denied us anything. I haven't wanted anything (scratch that. One thing and it mysteriously disappeared. Just a small statue my grandmother used to have in her house) but I'll tell you this: 2 of my 4 siblings have become monsters and stepmother isn't even dead yet. She has a book of requests from us kids and other family members. My one sister asked for a couple of small momentos, one brother hasn't asked for anything (he lives his life with his head buried in the sand), my husband recently asked her for Dad's turntable and some LP records of crooners from the 60s and 70s, I asked for nothing but she is giving me an opal bracelet because we share a birthday. The other two siblings? The one who lives in state has been clearing out the house for years, much of it my grandmother's things. I showed up once for a visit (NY to FL so it was obviously planned) and there were BOXES of Gramma's things on the kitchen table they were loading into their van. I mentioned it'd be nice if the rest of us could get a chance to see what's there. They hastily left for home. The other brother? You should see how thick my stepmother's notes are of what all he wants. He just filled up a POD from her house (she's had to move in with a family member 3 hours away from her home) and had it delivered to his place in the NE. Death (and money) most certainly DOES change people. Or does it simply bring out what was already there?
A reliable source shared how one family member showed up with a truck during the funeral and cleared out possessions they wanted.
@Peace- that's intolerable