That is so so beautiful Raptor. Pray for us. I come from a family of speaking horribly to one another. I see it but its so hard to break. We both have trauma in our past and lots of yelling in families. :(
That is so so beautiful Raptor. Pray for us. I come from a family of speaking horribly to one another. I see it but its so hard to break. We both have trauma in our past and lots of yelling in families. :(
Try picking one thing for one day. "I won't insist on the last word. Instead I will sit and listen and not say a word and keep my face neutral" or "I will say I am sorry even if I am mad and offer a hug to reset things and I won't get pissed if he rebuffs my hug. I will try later." Two very hard things that with prayer and getting bolstered by reading your Bible and waking every day with the goal things will get easier. But talk is easy. Go in with a plan and have contingencies for when things go sideways. You are not doomed to whatever course that you are on. God provides an exit ramp.
I sympathize! I do really well usually not to be insulting or use hurtful words but the yelling is something I have a very hard time stopping 😕 Raptor has some great ideas.
That is so so beautiful Raptor. Pray for us. I come from a family of speaking horribly to one another. I see it but its so hard to break. We both have trauma in our past and lots of yelling in families. :(
Of course I'm going to pray for you!
Try picking one thing for one day. "I won't insist on the last word. Instead I will sit and listen and not say a word and keep my face neutral" or "I will say I am sorry even if I am mad and offer a hug to reset things and I won't get pissed if he rebuffs my hug. I will try later." Two very hard things that with prayer and getting bolstered by reading your Bible and waking every day with the goal things will get easier. But talk is easy. Go in with a plan and have contingencies for when things go sideways. You are not doomed to whatever course that you are on. God provides an exit ramp.
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I sympathize! I do really well usually not to be insulting or use hurtful words but the yelling is something I have a very hard time stopping 😕 Raptor has some great ideas.