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A.M.'s avatar

Too funny! Blindness is the problem. Their thinking is the problem. If Rachel went to Staten Island on a Friday night to a working class bar or Italian restaurant, she'd meet some men. She could likely, after a while, find a good man. But she wouldn't like him. What Rachel wants is a pet she can train but she's not in her 20s and that pet is going to become more elusive. Give it another 20 years and maybe she'll find an octogenarian merging into his twilight years who is ready to have Mama take care of it all.

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Lori's avatar

If you read any of her columns, even as a woman, you decide quickly you would not even want her as a friend or acquaintance.

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A.M.'s avatar

I actually quit my job as a magazine editor rather than read the NY Times. I feel that strongly about it. Haven't read the Times in 24 years.

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Kathleen Janoski's avatar

She probably wants nothing to do with the "bridge and tunnel crowd."

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Susan Seas's avatar

She probably tells herself It’s as easy to marry a rich man as a poor one 🙄

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Jeff S's avatar

It is, isn't it?

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Mitch's avatar

Hope that's not her plan, because in their 80's available women far outnumber available men.

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Double Mc's avatar

What's worse is that they eschewed having children in favor of their own independence, and that's going to leave them incredibly lonely and uncared-for in their old age, with no one to visit them in the nursing home. My father of seven children was blessed to have four living nearby. He had visitors every single day in the nursing home, sometimes more than one. It made a huge difference in his care by the staff. These poor women will be housed, but not cared for.

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Tamara Summers's avatar

It is sad, but on the upside, if they choose to stay child-free instead of choosing single motherhood — let us hope and pray 🙏🏻 — Rachel D. and her ilk won’t have the chance to raise another generation of miserable, self-loathing adults.

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MattieRoss's avatar

^literally this^

Thank you for pointing out the massive favor Drucker (and all the other AWFL’s, FTM) are doing for society by not procreating.

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RunningLogic's avatar

So many crow about being “child free” and not having the burden and expense of children… yet they depend on OTHERS to have children so that there will be someone to take care of them when they need it. The person in the hospital or retirement home taking care of patients and residents is *someone’s* child that they chose to have and raise.

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SB's avatar

And don’t even get me started on how at 53, frankly, most men she finds are going to need some care in the not too distant future if she sticks around long enuf, but she’ll be angry she has to take care of him.

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shayne's avatar

I'm reminded of Benedict saying to Beatrice in "Much Ado About Nothing"....."God keep your ladyship still in that mind! so some gentleman or other shall 'scape a predestinate scratched face." LOL My favorite of Shakespeare's plays.

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Unapologetically Me's avatar

Including reminders to change his food stained shirt, his diaper, and whatever you do,: MEET him in your own vehicle. Allowing him to pick you up and DRIVE you to that restaurant can have consequences...

Oh, these Golden Years.

You oughta just SEE what's out there... Celibacy IS preferable. Honestly. Seriously. Especially at my age.

"Meglio sola che mal accompagnata."

Can't even sit through a lunch date without getting riled up. Best to just BLOCK HIS NUMBER in future because? He won't have gotten the hint. (Speaking from experience. Sadly.)

Just an old woman's POV. The "good ones" were got. Those "single after being long divorced" old ones? Throwbacks.

Thinking about funerals lately. As in: attending funerals of dearly departed wives whom I never actually knew. Checking obits. Maybe do a little quiet reconnaissance work...

(That used to be a joke between my sister and I when we were in

our forties. BTI. Before The Internet.)

I'll not win many friends nor influence many people with this comment and frankly: Not trying. 😉)

Just my personal perspective,

after all that was said & commented upon in today's

post.

Cheers from West Canuckistan. (Elbows DOWN.)

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Double Mc's avatar

I have no clue what you are going on about.

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Unapologetically Me's avatar

Figures. 😂

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