Maybe they are just trying to be nice and make a connection? You sound very bitter. I tend to call younger people "honey", or "sweetie", so I'm surprised at YOUR age, ANYONE is calling you that. Perhaps you should be grateful that another human being would even consider you sweet or honeylike. Because, clearly from your words, you are anything but.
Actually, imho, calling people you do not know but who are customers "sweetie" or "honey" is condescending and a way to put people in their place....or bringing them down to the status level they see themselves being.
There's a difference between a man calling us "sweetie" or "honey" and a woman doing it. In the South, it's just a kindness. When men do it, it is most likely condescension.
I'm so old that my Bless your heart is old too. They've also changed that definition. 😞 School culture makes the last generation out of step me and more. Another reason to homeschool.
I agree with this. I don’t like it done to me and I don’t do it to others. I find it more respectful to ask for their name. Use their name. I remember feeling this way as a small child. I noticed it in healthcare nurses calling patients honey, sweetie, sweetheart! Yuck! No. Use their name.
True, I don't know you. But I read your words, pondered them, and made an assumption on an aspect of your personality based on your statements. Perhaps I could have made my point and ended my comment at "Maybe they are just trying to be nice and make a connection?" But, I couldn't help myself, because aren't you doing the same thing when you assume that someone is being condescending and/or patronizing if they call you sweetie or honey? You are ascribing negative personality traits onto those people. I'm just doing the same thing to you.
I disagree. I think it absolutely says something about her. As I replied to her, SHE makes negative assumptions about people who might call her sweetie or honey - she thinks they are rude and disrespectful. So, if she can make assumptions about people based on THEIR words, why can't I?
Maybe they are just trying to be nice and make a connection? You sound very bitter. I tend to call younger people "honey", or "sweetie", so I'm surprised at YOUR age, ANYONE is calling you that. Perhaps you should be grateful that another human being would even consider you sweet or honeylike. Because, clearly from your words, you are anything but.
Actually, imho, calling people you do not know but who are customers "sweetie" or "honey" is condescending and a way to put people in their place....or bringing them down to the status level they see themselves being.
There's a difference between a man calling us "sweetie" or "honey" and a woman doing it. In the South, it's just a kindness. When men do it, it is most likely condescension.
I was about to say, being called "sweetie" by a waitress at a Waffle House in Georgia is pretty par for the course.
Yeh, I don't think it's a good idea to piss off anyone who is bringing you food. Even if they called me granny!
Well this is true!
It is when they say Bless Your Heart… they are putting you down. Calling sweetie or honey is just an endearment or they forgot your name.
I'm so old that my Bless your heart is old too. They've also changed that definition. 😞 School culture makes the last generation out of step me and more. Another reason to homeschool.
Nowadays......... best to call the waitress DUDE
unless its a gayguy. Then i use Sweetie
Nah. Chill
I agree with this. I don’t like it done to me and I don’t do it to others. I find it more respectful to ask for their name. Use their name. I remember feeling this way as a small child. I noticed it in healthcare nurses calling patients honey, sweetie, sweetheart! Yuck! No. Use their name.
I disagree.
Clearly you don't know me. Very rude to assume that you do.
True, I don't know you. But I read your words, pondered them, and made an assumption on an aspect of your personality based on your statements. Perhaps I could have made my point and ended my comment at "Maybe they are just trying to be nice and make a connection?" But, I couldn't help myself, because aren't you doing the same thing when you assume that someone is being condescending and/or patronizing if they call you sweetie or honey? You are ascribing negative personality traits onto those people. I'm just doing the same thing to you.
That is a cheap shot that’s not backed up by anything she said.
I disagree. I think it absolutely says something about her. As I replied to her, SHE makes negative assumptions about people who might call her sweetie or honey - she thinks they are rude and disrespectful. So, if she can make assumptions about people based on THEIR words, why can't I?