Don't think I don't know how blessed I am for having him! Yesterday was our 30th anniversary. Maybe you will be the one like my husband. Being the kind one in the face of the snit thrower. He wasn't always like that. He said he was tired of fighting with me and asked God to direct his path. It was a wake up call for me. I asked God to close my big mouth and to start treating my husband like who he was to me - most important after God. It isn't perfection. But it will be one day.
That is so so beautiful Raptor. Pray for us. I come from a family of speaking horribly to one another. I see it but its so hard to break. We both have trauma in our past and lots of yelling in families. :(
Try picking one thing for one day. "I won't insist on the last word. Instead I will sit and listen and not say a word and keep my face neutral" or "I will say I am sorry even if I am mad and offer a hug to reset things and I won't get pissed if he rebuffs my hug. I will try later." Two very hard things that with prayer and getting bolstered by reading your Bible and waking every day with the goal things will get easier. But talk is easy. Go in with a plan and have contingencies for when things go sideways. You are not doomed to whatever course that you are on. God provides an exit ramp.
I sympathize! I do really well usually not to be insulting or use hurtful words but the yelling is something I have a very hard time stopping 😕 Raptor has some great ideas.
Well said. Blessed as well. Your husband is blessed that you are self aware about this. Yes, SNIT thrower is an apt description of MY behavior at times. Trying to be better. Sigh.
I was thinking those of us who commented here or liked the interaction of Raptor and Janice for her action at the clinic, might enjoy a ladies bible study uplifting eachother in being women and wives of God.
I know we all have pur own churches but truth is being primary caregiver of my kid I don’t get out for weekly bible studies. I’d love to connect with others who want to grow in this area. Seems like we have several ladies who would like to and we have some ladies who would do well to lead us.
If so, I’m not sure of other platforms but there is the fb group I started for C&C and we could do a subgroup chat for conversation.
I’m open to ideas! I need other women around me who openly struggle with this and more Titus 2 women to help lead! ❤️
I would be up for it. There are plenty of people on CnC (thank you and sorry Jeff) who love to talk all things Bible. Maybe we could start a stack. I will give it some thought while I am peddling. Hope others might want to.
I sure wish this was so in my family. I need a husband like yours and more grace to change our family.
Don't think I don't know how blessed I am for having him! Yesterday was our 30th anniversary. Maybe you will be the one like my husband. Being the kind one in the face of the snit thrower. He wasn't always like that. He said he was tired of fighting with me and asked God to direct his path. It was a wake up call for me. I asked God to close my big mouth and to start treating my husband like who he was to me - most important after God. It isn't perfection. But it will be one day.
That is so so beautiful Raptor. Pray for us. I come from a family of speaking horribly to one another. I see it but its so hard to break. We both have trauma in our past and lots of yelling in families. :(
Of course I'm going to pray for you!
Try picking one thing for one day. "I won't insist on the last word. Instead I will sit and listen and not say a word and keep my face neutral" or "I will say I am sorry even if I am mad and offer a hug to reset things and I won't get pissed if he rebuffs my hug. I will try later." Two very hard things that with prayer and getting bolstered by reading your Bible and waking every day with the goal things will get easier. But talk is easy. Go in with a plan and have contingencies for when things go sideways. You are not doomed to whatever course that you are on. God provides an exit ramp.
I wish I could “love” this
I sympathize! I do really well usually not to be insulting or use hurtful words but the yelling is something I have a very hard time stopping 😕 Raptor has some great ideas.
Love that perspective ❤️
Well said. Blessed as well. Your husband is blessed that you are self aware about this. Yes, SNIT thrower is an apt description of MY behavior at times. Trying to be better. Sigh.
I was thinking those of us who commented here or liked the interaction of Raptor and Janice for her action at the clinic, might enjoy a ladies bible study uplifting eachother in being women and wives of God.
I know we all have pur own churches but truth is being primary caregiver of my kid I don’t get out for weekly bible studies. I’d love to connect with others who want to grow in this area. Seems like we have several ladies who would like to and we have some ladies who would do well to lead us.
If so, I’m not sure of other platforms but there is the fb group I started for C&C and we could do a subgroup chat for conversation.
I’m open to ideas! I need other women around me who openly struggle with this and more Titus 2 women to help lead! ❤️
I would be up for it. There are plenty of people on CnC (thank you and sorry Jeff) who love to talk all things Bible. Maybe we could start a stack. I will give it some thought while I am peddling. Hope others might want to.
Sometimes we have to REALLY work on our grace. At least, I know I must. I am a mean girl by nature.
"Ask and you will receive", Lisa!